This September means I’m headed back to Cardiff for my second year at university. I’m really excited this year as I will be living in a house in Cathays (the area in Cardiff that has been taken over by students) with five other girls, some from my hometown and some whom I’ve met through university. I can’t wait for the fun times with these girls and to actually live in a house, as student halls are not the homeliest of places. I’m determined to throw myself into university life this year, as last year I was sooo homesick, and would literally count down the days until I would be able to travel home on the weekend. I can’t say why I missed home so much – I made friends easily, got on with most people in my flat, enjoyed going out and socialising and enjoyed my course – I just think sometimes you need to be back in your cosy little house with family and friends around you. I guess you can say I don’t like change!
So here is my advice for the new freshers about to spread their wings and fly the nest this year. I am by no means an expert at this, but I am one of the people who didn’t enjoy university as much as I could have last year, and don’t want people to feel the same way as I did.
It sounds obvious, but many people don’t do this. Go out, get drunk, lose your dignity, meet new people – that’s what Freshers Week is all about! I absolutely loved Freshers Week, it was so much fun going out every night with my flatmates and friends. And remember, everyone is in your position so don’t be afraid to suggest different things you could be doing. Everyone wants to make friends and enjoy!
This is something I regret not doing last year. I’ve danced since the age of 4, and decided to join a dance society, which I really enjoyed going to. At first my flatmate came along, but then she didn’t want to anymore and I didn’t want to go on my own.. Something I wish I did now! It would have been awkward at first, but I would have soon made friends and found people to go with etc. Plus it would have been something to do in the days (which can get quite boring if you have a teensy timetable like me).
Ensure you have different friends from just your flatmates. I would definitely join the society for your course as it’s a great way to meet people on the course in your year and years above should you ever need help of advice. It’s also good to have friends on your course so you’re not sat like a loner in your lectures.
My first term in university was not the best.. I just wanted to lie in bed all day after going to lectures, which made me upset and really homesick. The only time I enjoyed was if I was going out in the night. I would say the best thing to do is keep busy. It stops you from thinking about home if you’re like me and will miss it like crazy! In the second term I would go to town or the library to study with my friends in the days after lectures, and in the night I would go to the gym with my friend the nights we weren’t going out and I felt soooo much better. In fact, I started to enjoy university life again!
My flatmates honestly made me feel like such a loser because I missed home so much. They made me feel guilty for going home on the weekends even though I live just over an hour away from university, and made out that I went home because I didn’t like them which wasn’t the case at all. Looking back now I wish I’d told them exactly how they made me feel, as it resulted in me distancing myself from them and doing things with other friends although I don’t regret that at all as I’ve made friends for life. If you want to go home because you feel you need a break, then do it. Who is to say you can’t?
Are you a fresher this year? Where are you headed to university?